Over recent years, pet ownership has changed.
In the past, pets often had a job – dogs were bred to complete a task: guard dog, sheepdog or gun dog. Today the role of many pets has changed, with many now acting as a companion for their owner and family.
The Human-Animal Bond
The bond that develops between owner and pet can be as strong as the bonds that tie other family members. For many pet owners, the bonds they have with their pets can be as strong as those seen between mother and child.
Pet loss and grief
It is normal for people to feel grief when they lose a human family member. It is a little more complicated when we lose a pet; especially if that pet was euthanised due to poor health. Owners report feeling guilty for making the difficult decision to say goodbye. Some report feeling guilty because of the strength of emotion they are experiencing for an animal and others may feel embarrassed about it.
Coming to terms with bereavement
Grieving is a personal and highly individual experience. Some people find grief comes in stages, where they experience different feelings such as denial, anger, guilt, depression, and eventually acceptance and resolution. Others find that grief is more cyclical, coming in waves, or a series of highs and lows. The lows are likely to be deeper and longer at the beginning and then gradually become shorter and less intense as time goes by. Still, even years after a loss, a sight, a sound, or a special anniversary can spark memories that trigger a strong sense of grief.
Suffering a bereavement and going through grief can be exhausting. You may experience physical symptoms and suffer from sleep loss. This is often described as being on the rocks. It is important to remember these feelings are only temporary and that they will pass.
It is important that you allow yourself time to grieve. Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. Feeling all washed up or in extreme cases suffering an emotional breakdown can be traced back to not acknowledging the strength of loss and how it has affected you. By expressing your grief, you’ll likely need less time to heal than if you withhold or “bottle up” your feelings.
The Human-Animal Bond goes way beyond pet ownership
The increase in the use of service animals, in particular dogs, goes to show how much disabled people rely upon them to maintain an independent lifestyle. The bond that develops between a service dog and their handler is deep and enduring. Service animals are often considered a close family member by those they support.
Pet cremation is increasing in popularity, providing owners with a sense of closure and an opportunity to make your final farewells.
There are two options available:
- Individual pet cremation – your pet is cremated on their own, ensuring that you will only receive the ashes of your pet.
- Communal pet cremation – animals for cremated together. It’s not possible to have the ashes of your pet returned.
For those that choose the individual pet cremation having their pet’s ashes returned to them is a source of comfort. It also allows for the ashes to be scattered; perhaps on a favourite walk, or to be held in a casket or urn close at hand.
Footprints and Whispers create unique memorial gifts and jewellery designed to honour your pet’s memory.
The Reality of Absence
Once the mourning has passed and you start to accept a life without your pet, reality will kick in and your life can start to regain some sense of normality. Yes, you will still feel an absence, but this should grow less with time. During this period, you might find it helpful to create a tribute or memorial to your pet. We are often told of the comfort that this brings and it is a great way to keep the memory of your pet alive.
About the Author
Jon Baily is the marketing manager for CPC the UK’s leading pet crematorium. The articles on the blog aim to provide hints and tips on pet welfare, seasonal ideas and advice on pet loss and coping with bereavement.